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    Talking Saved My life - Neil Kelders
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We Work Through 4 Stages With YOU:

1. Ask Campaign

A short survey undertaken prior to each individual talk. This allows each member of your team to have input (anonymously) into the talk. This talk is then tailor-made for your company's needs.

3. The Talk

2. Preread Document

This short document is sent to the organiser prior to the workshop. it outlines the structure of the talk and allows for any additional changes needed.

4. Recommendations

The talk is developed to meet the need of your company. Neil uses many visuals including video, pictures and colourful diagrams in order to give you that 'tangible' insight into life with a mental health problem. He pulls on his own personal experiences, as well as calling on his experience in the professional setting and introduces skills from acting and improvisation in order to ensure a creative, unique, interactive and personal talk for each attendee.

Attendees do not leave empty handed and leave with access to some of Neil's online resources in order to allow them to put what they have learned into practice.

During the talk, Neil takes feedback from the attendees through a web-based Q & A platform, which allows attendees to ask or answer questions via their phones. Neil explores any outstanding issues or areas of concern the attendees may have.

This results in giving the company an insight to where they may need to direct more focus. Neil produces a list of recommendations as to how best address these areas, thus making the companies approach towards mental health a sustainable one.

 Talk Options:

Signature Talk

The Snakes & Ladders Of Mental Health

This is a unique and creative talk Neil has developed in order to open your eyes to mental health problems.


This talk is for the workplace as a whole; it is your colleague who openly talks about their mental health problems; it is for your ‘invisible' colleague, the one who masks their problems in very creative ways and it is for YOU, those of you, thankfully, not dealing with a mental health problem, it gives you a ‘tangible' insight into what some of your colleagues may be going through. He brings to the fore the ultimate goal, someone with mental health problems should strive for – access their power.


 

Neil brings you through 3 stages of the Snakes & Ladders pathway


1. The ‘Experience’. Neil gives you a raw and honest insight into living with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. You will feel it.

2. The ‘Obstacles’. Neil explains why many people with mental health problems are reluctant to share and why others may be reluctant to offer support.

3. The Support. Neil explores what support means in relation to mental health problems and one does not need to understand what a colleague is going through in order to offer their support. Noticing someone is the first step towards ‘accessing their power’.

 

 

More Talks

Did you know many MEN do no think they experience anxiety. They believe it is stress? There is a perception that anxiety is a condition which affects women only!

How is anxiety different to just feeling stressed or worried?

Well in a nutshell anxious feelings are a normal reaction to a high-pressure situation – for example, meeting work deadlines, sitting exams or speaking in public. However, for some people (as has been the case with me) these anxious feelings happen for no apparent reason or continue long after the stressful event has passed.

These anxious feelings can seem uncontrollable and can make it hard to cope with daily life. I have lost so many days to my anxiety. I had to learn how to manage it.

During this talk we explore the differences and how we can manage the conditions.

 

If you’re living with high levels of stress, you’re putting your entire well-being at risk. Stress wreaks havoc on your emotional equilibrium, as well as your physical health. It narrows your ability to think clearly, function effectively, and enjoy life.

Effective stress management, on the other hand, helps you break the hold stress has on your life, so you can be happier, healthier, and more productive.

 

Anxiety will come and go. When and why can still be an unknown!

 

In this talk we explore ways to manage your anxiety while still being productive.

 

Check out 'It Gets Harder Every Fucking Day and I don't Know How Long I Can Handle It!'

An obstacle to many people talking about their depression is the fact they believe, and maybe rightly so, that people wone't understand. I know this was one of my many obstacles from talking.

 

Here you are given an insight into depression, it will give those who don't suffer a mental health problem an almost tangible insight into a day with depression.

 

Neil has written a great insight into this talk in his blog. '7 Steps I took TODAY to turn my DEPRESSION around in EIGHT hours!'

 

 


Depression, anxiety, stress or suicidal thoughts can be so strong as to wipe out your day. This is what I experienced on many occasions but it was not just one day it was 2 or 3 and evens weeks at a time.

 

If that wasn't bad enough, you then have to start from scratch to get yourself back on track with work, fitness and your personal life. You wonder if it is worth it because you know it will happen all over again.

 

Have a read of some of my thoughts on this in my blog post 'Win from Within'

Resilience is not just your ability to bounce back, but also your capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances, whilst maintaining a stable mental wellbeing.

 

Resilience is important for us all. When suffering from a mental health problem even the simplest of tasks or obstacles may seem insumountable. So it is of the upmost importance to have steps in place manage yourself through these circumstances.

 

Resilience isn't a personality trait - it's something we can all take steps to achieve.

I wanted to take my own life since I was 15 years old.

 

Not everyone contemplating suicide actually wants to do it. I have asked myself this question, ' Did I really want to take my own life'?

 

Yes, I did. It was if I longed for it. However, on reflection, suicide was my option because I believed it was my only way to be free, to stop this constant, exhausting, troubled life.

 

This talk has given people a great insight into why people take their lives, it gives us a better understanding.

Do you have a habit you could do without?

 

Well done, awareness is the first step. Remember habits can be good or bad. The good thing is habits, because they are learnt, can be changed.

 

Why people find it hard to change a bad habit is because sometimes they actually enjoy that habit. So they are trying to get rid of something they enjoy rather than 'replacing' it with a 'good' habit they will also enjoy.

This talk looks at how small consistent action (habits) over a period of time has greater pay offs then intensely large but short changes.

In life many of us do NOT know or have ever even thought about where we want to go, to end up or what we want to achieve.

 

Yes, in a work setting we may set goals and objectives but I believe these goals and objectives are not true IF you do not compliment them with your life vision.

 

The best way to create your goals is 'with the end in mind', which means with your end vision of your life.

 

I create a vision board which hangs on my wall at home. I see it everyday, it is imprinted in my brain. All my daily activities are leading me to this vision.

 

In this talk we explore 'begin with the end in mind'.

We do the same things over and over and expect different results. How can this be, right?

 

I wanted to beat my depression, but yet I fell into same trap, doing the same things, having the same thoughts. I realised things would never change, I had to do something differently.

 

How many of us do the same things day in day out and keep getting the same unwanted results, or just the same 'old' results.

 

Here we explore how to change, we look at what we should change, because often we are unsure of what needs to change to achieve a different outcome.

We hear a lot about wellness. For me it is better to focus on well-being. I view well-being as a more sustainable form of looking after your body, mind and soul.

 

Here we explore ways you can implement to achieve better well-being which you can adapt and progress as life goes by but which you can also share with colleagues, family and friends.

Two things which I believe are still neglected when addressing our mental health.

 

Exercise is vital when addressing mental health, not just hitting the gym but actually getting out into the fresh air, connecting with nature. Neil works with many referrals from doctors in order to integrate exercise into people's daily routines.

 

Neil changed his eating over 5 years ago. He cut out meat, dairy (he does have a banoffee pie now and again) and fish and has introduced more plant based foods. This is not for everyone but is something many have introduced at some level.

 

Eating for mental health is vital. We still don't eat well for our physical health never mind our mental health.

 

We look at exercise and eating for yoru mental health and create ways you can introduce beneficials foods into your daily life.

How hard is it to keep up on your physical health. Neil has worked as a fitness profressional for 20 years and holds a degree in Health, Fitness & Nutrition Development, but even he has strayed off course when looking after his mental health.

 

Neil has worked with people wanting to lose weight, work on injuries (such as back & knees), train for events or just wanting to make exercise part of their daily or weekly routine.

 

We explore obstacles people frequently come up against when trying to maintain an exercise regime. What the best ways to meet your goals are, as well as introducing you to some tips and tricks to make exercise sustainable.

Yes, of course there are 2 types of fear, healthy and unhealthy. Healthy fear can save you from harm, but the unhealthy fear creates negativity, avoidance and a narrow vision.

 

My unheallthy fear led me to say NO or I CAN'T to many opportunities which closed me off to more and new experiences. It created a feeling of being alone, lost and out of place in this life.

 

Here we look into ways in which we can address our fear and use it to progress in work and our personal lives.

A fear of stigma can be crippling, in my case can even contribute to ending ones life, but in most cases it leads many not to live the life the desire or deserve.

 

Neil gives an honest account of the role stigma played with him masking his mental health problems for 21 years and how he eventually overcame this fear and now lives his desired life.

 

We look at why stigma may exist in work or social settings and how we can overcome this genuine fear.

Do you know how to be a support to someone? It can be very difficult with many people shying away from this very important role.

 

Neil has always stated that the support he has received from people has contributed to saving his life. Once someone 'noticed' him, his journey through his mental problems began.

 

We explore how we can 'notice' people and how to be a support without becoming to uncomfortable. Neil makes us realise that you do NOT have to UNDERSTAND what the individual is going through but all you have to do is notice and be there.

What Clients have Said:

  • ‘Rarely have I heard a speaker command an audience through the sheer power of his honesty as Neil……. through his wonderful snakes and ladders storyboard. He was able to connect with every single person in the auditorium…… For weeks afterwards I’ve been receiving queries…. such was the profound effect Neil has had on them. Neil is a wonderful person with ferocious courage and integrity from whom we can all learn a great deal.’
    Adrian O' Sullivan
    Chairperson, Environmental Health Association of Ireland
  • “First time I met Neil was at the Environmental Health Authority of Ireland event and he certainly made an impact, his honesty and openness in an area of mental health that is not often openly discussed (particularly for my gender and age group) was refreshing and in parts shocking too. Neil has a real commitment to facing mental health problems head-on, no swerving, no avoiding, no delaying. He never said he had all the answers, but what I took from meeting him was that he wants everyone to recognise in themselves if there is a problem, declare it and start to question what they can do about it.”
    David Duffy
    Chartered Environmental Health Officer, Scotland
  • Having Neil as our Keynote Speaker was an absolute pleasure from the start. His approach to mental health showed immense sensitivity while also being incredibly approachable and practical. His ability to ‘tell a story’ is truly wonderful, as he faces the most difficult of subjects in the most inspiring ways. Perhaps the best aspect to my experience working with Neil was his warmth and generosity of spirit, as he ensures that every single person in a room feels welcomed and cared for.
    Aimée Louise Carton
    CEO KeepAppy
  • Neil presented to us here in Chartered Accountants Ireland and made an immediate impact. He was hugely engaging and had the audience's complete attention from the word go. While speaking to us Neil was entertaining, heartfelt and sincere as well as highly informative. How he articulates his own personal story while communicating the important things we all need to know about mental health within ourselves and those close to us was exactly on point and I highly recommend attending his talks whenever you get the chance.
    Dave Riordan
    Recruitment Specialist & Career Coach at Chartered Accouuntants Ireland